Nonconformist call it as it is

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Nonconformist call it as it is
on Breakups
Breakups are hard regardless of who’s the one making the decision. My last breakup was a tough one. I spent months ruminating the scene in my head. Planning every detail, carefully selecting every word. “There’s nothing wrong with you, I’m just going through some things I need to sort out” was going to be the core of my excuse.

But when it finally came to it, I couldn’t say it. I didn’t have the guts to look him in the eyes and tell him on the night I planned, or the night after, or throughout the months that preceded. I wanted out, and I badly wanted my life back. But I just couldn’t do it. He was a really nice guy, and saying those words would have been like sticking a knife in his heart.

I waited for the right time….it never came…

And then one day, out of the blue, the words escaped me. No well-crafted speech, no attention to detail. It happened all of a sudden on an ordinary night while we were watching TV. I stood up in front of him and blurted out, “I want to break up.” His eyes met mine, and we kept the contact for what seemed like an eternity. He could see it, my apathy, the absence of love… no more words to say. He stood, grabbed his shoes and left. A few days later he returned to pick up his things.

I felt alive again, but I also felt a sense of coldness in me. I wasn’t happy with how it went down or how I handled it. But I learned my lesson. Breakups are never easy, but they’re many times harder the longer you wait.
6mo ago  •  2 comments

Nonconformist call it as it is
on Comforting Lies
In many cases they are well-intended, we all do it. I tell my friend she looks great on camera, when in reality she sucks. I just do it to help her gain confidence.
7mo ago  •  2 comments

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