PamelaRye

We are made by history

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PamelaRye
We are made by history
on Dating Your Sibling's Ex
People are not possessions!! And we don’t hold exclusive rights on the people we’ve dated.

Let me share this family story: I have two cousins, which are around the same age and practically grew up more like sisters. I will call them Mary and Tina.
Mary and Tina were inseparable cousins and close friends.

One day Mary met a handsome, well educated and polished guy at a dinner party. They started dating and Mary fell deeply in love with him.

For about 8 months Mary’s life revolved around Fernando. On one occasion, around the second month of dating, Mary arranged a lunch to finally introduce Fernando to Tina and other family members including me.
The very minute Fernando was introduced to Tina it was clear they had an instant attraction. Everyone saw it, except for Mary.

The situation worried me, but both were my cousins, and all I wanted was to see them happy. I made no further comments and let things run their course. And they did.

After 6 month Fernando decided to break up with Mary. And after a month of the break-up, he called Tina to ask her out on a date. She accepted and they spent hours openly talking about their feelings and how they couldn’t stop thinking about each other. It was love at first sight, they were made for each other.

But, they had the Mary factor and the Tina loyalty. She couldn’t overcome the sisterhood barrier and decided to cut all communication with what could have been the love of her life.

Fernando tried everything with no luck but after two years of waiting for Tina he got married. Mary never found out about Fernando and Tina. She got married and after 14 years she still remains happy in her marriage. 15 years later Tina remains single, and looking for Fernando in every man she dates.

All I can hope is that someday she finds her Fernando.
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