Online Dating


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I tried online dating once and then vowed to never do it again! I was in a middle of separating from my husband after 15 years of marriage. Although we were still living in the same house, we slept in different rooms.

In my solitude, I craved the attention and intimacy that can only be felt through a romantic relationship. So, I decided to join an online dating site. Within just a few short hours, I connected with a man who liked my profile. He was funny and enthusiastic, and in two weeks we established an e-romance.

I never mentioned to him that I was still married nor that my family didn’t know that I was planning to get a divorce. When we finally met in person over lunch, we greeted each other with a warm hug. Although he was not exactly what I was expecting (he looked so much handsome in his pictures) I still found the spark we had in our online chats.

Half an hour later- I started feeling really mortified by the fact that I had to bring up the marriage/separation situation. As I thought of what I would say, I heard the voice of my brother. Turns out he and my dad were seated just three tables down from us. I turned so many shades of red! As our lunch was almost over, I rushed him to ask for the tab and gave him a $20 to pay my for my half. Then, with little explanation, I rushed to get the heck out of there.

When I was almost reaching the exit door, my brother noticed I was there and called my name. I kept walking as if I couldn’t hear him, but it was too late and he was already too close to ignore. Suddenly, I stood standing in the middle of the restaurant with my brother, my dad and my date all looking at me with puzzled looks on their faces. At that point, I introduced my date as a business associate. Thankfully he went along with the story and we left our separate ways.

Later that night, I tried to contact him to explain myself but with no luck. He had blocked me from all, and I mean all, forms of communication. No Facebook account, no Google, no nothing. Who doesn’t show up on a Google Search these days?

As it turns out, he had used a different identity the entire time. All the while I was worried about what he would think about my situation, he was pretending to be someone else entirely. I don’t know what his end goal was, but I‘m thankful that it ended when it did.

At that point, I decided that if love was for me, I had to find it the traditional way. A year later after my divorce finalized, I met a wonderful guy at a friend’s party. That was 4 years ago, and since then we have been inseparable. Sometimes we only have to give time a chance.
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